If it wasn't because a tragic accident took his life in 2003, today Kevin would be celebrating his birthday. Kevin McCarthy and his wife, Diana GongMcCarthy, were two of the victims in the Santa Monica Farmers' Market car crash on July 16 of 2003. He was 50 and she was 41.
I met Kevin and Diana through his sister (my good friend and wonderful artist) Anamaria McCarthy. We saw each other only a few times, but I always felt as if I had known Kevin and Diana forever. We had instant chemistry from day number one. Very quickly we started building a friendship that was suddenly interrupted by the tragic accident that took their lives. My memories of Kevin and Diana are still so fresh in my mind. They were so special.
They came to my baby shower in 2003 and brought presents that I still treasure with love. Below is the thank you note that I wrote to them.
We had lunch two times. The first time we went to a restaurant near our home and the second time they took me to their tiny place in Santa Monica. Kevin and Diana had just made a huge decision. They had decided to move from New York City to LA, permanently, in order to follow their dreams in film making. They had been making their own beautiful black and white movies for a while, but they felt that it was about time to do it full time. I was totally in love with their courage and resolution so I decided to help them on their difficult journey.
I asked Bill to meet with Kevin in order to talk about Hollywood and give him some directions. Bill was extremely busy at the time but he accepted. How excited I was about the meeting! I left several voice mail messages to Kevin but unfortunately he never had the chance to hear them.
After the accident I went back to their place with my friend Anamaria, Kevin's sister. Everything looked exactly the same as the day when I had lunch with them. Everything was neat and clean and very organized. On the table, there was still the huge puzzle that Diana was working on. I remember Kevin say that Diana was a puzzle fanatic. She was definitely a very organized and smart person. On the wall there were 2 to-do lists. One for Kevin and one for Diana. Each one had a list of specific things that they were going to do during the week. It was as if time had just stopped. Everything was there, in the perfect place, but Kevin and Diana were never going to be able to check their to do list or to finish the huge puzzle.
But here is a quote that brings lots of clarity into my mind today:
When Kevin and Diana were alive, they were very alive. And now that they're gone they're still very alive in my heart. Their deep love for each other, their resolution to pursue their dreams and their courage was a huge inspiration to me and to all the people who knew them. Wherever you guys are right now have a wonderful time and a very Happy Birthday Kevin!. Big hugs to you both! You will never be forgotten.