Dear Diego, my sweetheart:
I know that life has been specially difficult for you in the last weeks. I know that you don't want to do things that make other people upset. I know that you just want to be a happy child, like everybody else around you. Mommy cares a lot about you and I do feel your pain. But I have great news, things will get better little by little. Very soon you're going to start your social skills therapies. There is so much that you're going to learn! Mommy will be taking you to the therapies 3 times a week, you will see, it's going to be fun.
Don't worry if things are hard in the beginning when you start these therapies. Little by little you will learn how to do things in a way that will make your life at school and everywhere else a lot easier. I want you to know that we love you so much and that we care about you so much. Natalie loves you, Miro loves you, Daddy loves you, I love you and so many other people love you. You're a great boy. You're a very special boy.
Please, whenever you're having a hard time just remember that you're not alone. We understand you, we do know how hard life is sometimes for you. We really do. But we're here to help each other because we're a strong family and together we will overcome every obstacle.
We're so proud of you Diego! You're so smart and creative and funny.You are going to be 6 years old next month, you're a big boy. I know that you understand what I mean with this letter. I know that you understand a lot more than we think, that's why I just had to let you know these ideas.
I love you with all my heart!
Please read this post: Awareness.
You need to watch the very short video on it to get the idea. After reading that post I just realized that Diego is the kind of person that notices everything, literally. He's the kind of person who will notice what you will probably miss in the video from the post that I mentioned, just as I did.
After reading that post I just had to write this letter for Diego. I know that he needs to hear these words. He's going through a hard period right now. All related to the many areas that still need to develop in his brain. But fortunately he's not alone. He has a great team giving him support. But today I just needed to stop myself, really stop myself to notice what Diego is trying to communicate to me without words. I really think that once in a while we need to stop, totally, intentionally, to notice those subtle things that we may not see in our daily basis. I am glad that I did that today. I promise to do it more often. Children need parents to do that, weather they're autistic like Diego or neurotypical like Natalie children don't have sophisticated tools to communicate deep feelings. What it looks like misbehaving could be their way to scream for help. I really think that awareness is very important, specially for parents, we need to be intentionally aware of what's going on in our children's lives because it could make a huge difference.