Something that I'm seeing very clearly in these days is that behind the hard times, there's always important lessons to learn. Deep human growth comes from dealing with life difficulties and challenges. It now comes to mind one particular thing that happened to me when I was 12 years old. It was something traumatic but that experience shaped important aspects of my personality that made me become a strong girl later on.
I can't remember one hard experience from the past that didn't teach me something new about myself. Only when we are pushed away from our comfort zone we get to expand ourselves and grow up a little bit more. And growing up has a lot to do with giving and with letting go of hard feelings toward yourself, other people and the negative life events in general.
My point is that hard times are not just hard times, they're also open doors, new opportunities for growth. I just wanted to share these thoughts with you, because maybe you're going through something difficult right now as well. If that's the case then try to remember that there is always something positive in the negative, even if it sounds contradictory. The key is in always trying to see beyond the pain.